90% of adoptions are open.
That means the adopting family and birth family will be connected in some capacity forever. It also means we "matching" doesn't work anymore.
In an open adoption, personality matters.
PairTree reveals the personalities of the adopting families – the leading indicator of how a family will behave – giving expectant and birth parents a values-based idea of what a future would be like.
JesterThe life of the party. Turning mundane into fun and enjoyable. Spontaneous, playful, and witty – with an emphasis on the here and now, bringing joy to the world through humor, fun, and irreverence.
RulerResponsible and organized – they can create order from chaos. Absolutely comfortable with volunteering to take charge. 'Rulers' have a significant respect for hard work, authority, and patriotism.
CreativeOften described as artists, creators and inventors. Prizes being completely and entirely original. Has lots of ideas and a powerful imagination. Driven to build things that add value to the World.
RomanticFeels all the feels. Committed & faithful. Passionate about everything they do – with attentive, intense, and very personal connections. They create intimate moments and inspire love. Likes to please others.
MagicianExcellent at identifying potential in people and situations. Bends over backwards to make everyone feel special, and to make dreams come true. Commonly referred to as visionaries and innovators.
RebelSwims against the current. Not afraid to think or act differently than societal norms. Questions status-quo. Often described as revolutionary, deriving power from the people. Free-minded and free-spirited.
ExplorerThese people seek authenticity find inspiration in travel, risk, discovery, and the thrill of new experiences. 'Explorers' seek a better world with an emphasis on the journey...
SageInformation fuels them. Excellent at research, often serving as a thoughtful mentor or advisor. Values wisdom and continuous learning. Committed to gain deeper insight and constantly building on their expertise.
NeighborThe friend you want. The 'neighbor’s' underlying value is that everyone matters. Seeks connections and belonging; is recognized as supportive, faithful and down-to-earth.
CaregiverOozes compassion, generosity, and a desire to help others. 'Caregivers' exhibit exponential concern and attention. Protects and cares for others – with unparalleled selflessness.
HeroMotivators. Possesses courage, ambition, and competence – with strong moral character. These people triumph over tragedy, and major challenges – often inspiring us all to make the world a better place.
InnocentValues the simple things in life. Loves traditions. Makes time for everyone. Guided by goodness, nostalgia, and wholesomeness. 'Innocents' exhibit happiness, optimism, safety, and youth.
I never thought we’d connect on a site like this, but it happened in less than two weeks!
Max & Kelsey
Adopting Family
The Benefits of PairTree Connect
PairTree doesn't prescribe a one-size-fits-all process or “match” families. Our platform empowers you to connect directly, supported by your licensed adoption professionals.
Account Linking Magic
Families don't have to choose between national outreach and guidance from a local licensed professional. PairTree marries the two with Account Linking Magic: Home study-approved families create profiles linked to their licensed adoption professional, ensuring guidance throughout.
Pro-to-Pro Connections: Licensed adoption professionals can connect with each other regarding specific families they wish to present to expectant mothers
Safe Connection Filters
All interactions are subject to our Safe Connection Filters – where we constantly track three major markers, so you can focus on creating authentic connections.
You are immediately notified if a marker is flagged.
Clear Performance
We provide analytics on how your profile is performing – along with helpful data on the activity in our Community.
Information is power.
Profiles That Get Views!
Profiles that don't get views are a waste of time. Every month, between 10-20 new expecting moms view and engage with families profiles on PairTree. Every expectant mom is connected to a local-to-her licensed adoption professional in our network, and is encouraged to use the filters on PairTree to view online profiles of adopting families that align with her criteria.
We never have more than 10 adopting families for every one expecting or birth family.
Custom Videos You Can Reuse
Make a personal, unique first impression! For our Connect Plus and Complete families, you now have the power to easily create custom profile videos. You can easily create your video on any device, and we help create a beautiful final version to add to your Connect profile.
And bonus...you can download and reuse these videos as many times as you like for additional outreach!
I knew what I wanted - and found exactly what I was looking for!
Iris
Birth Mom
The Stories That Motivate Us
Seth & Barret: connected in two weeks!
"PairTree made the process of connecting with a birth mom transparent, and simple, in a way no other service or agency could. We’re forever grateful to PairTree for being the platform that connected us with Iris, the birth mom of our almost one-year-old son Estes and a part of our daily lives."
Connecting is becoming more social.
PairTree families don't need social media accounts to do outreach in social media.
Step 1
Create an online profile
Think about what makes you different, and amplify that in your profile to make it easier for an expecting or birth family to get to know you.
Step 2
We promote your profile
More eyeballs on your unique profile means more opportunities to make a strong healthy connection.
Step 3
Watch your views rise!
Lean on your team of adoption professionals to help you navigate opportunities safely and ethically.
PairTree Connect
Frequently Asked Questions
We want to make sure you have all of the information. Let us know if you have other questions!
Get AnswersHave adopting families connected with expectant moms on PairTree?
+Yes!
We know of 52 families that connected on the PairTree platform in the last 2 years.
That said, we discourage adopting families from asking “How many matches have you had?” We think tracking matches set up the wrong expectations in adopting families. An adoption agency can have 100 placements, but were those placements ethical? Did the birth moms get objective options counseling or did she feel coerced? Did she get to choose the family, and get the support she needed?
How long does it take?
We've had adopting families connect with expectant moms in as little as 10 days. But we've also had families that are still hoping to connect after 12 months. Because the expectant mom selects the family, we cannot guarantee you will be selected or matched, nor can provide an estimate of how long the selection process will take. We know how frustrating that vagueness can be. Our advice is this: let us help you control what we can control (i.e. getting your profile as much exposure as possible), knowing we can’t control the serendipity that will always exist in adoption (is the right expectant mom, looking for a family like yours, at the right time).
What we DO track are the things we have control over:
1. Engagement: how many expectant moms on PairTree are actively reaching out to families, sending messages, etc. We have a typical engagement rate of 69% (meaning almost 7 out of 10 expectant moms engage with adopting families).
2. Ratio: We never want to exceed a 10:1 ratio of adopting families to expectant moms. Often, it's closer to a 6:1 ratio.
One of the other advantages of PairTree is the collaboration between adoption professionals across the Country. Instead of solely relying on an expectant mom to find her way to PairTree, we’re now “networking” adoption professionals so that when they are working with an expectant mom and need families to present to her – they turn to PairTree for those families.
In light of the recent regulations – that is the area of PairTree that we’re investing in growing, so the opportunities for an expectant mom to find the right adopting family for her will be even greater.
The goal of PairTree is to power the backend processes of many adoption professionals across the Country…serving as the “connective tissue” between them all to ensure the most ethical journey for everyone an reduce the proliferation of bad actors in adoption.
Is Connect the same as Matching?
+PairTree does not “match” families.
As an adoption enablement platform, we've created a safe and modern space for adoptive families to communicate their intent to adopt and connect with expectant moms and birth moms exploring adoption – all while being guided by licensed adoption professionals that have visibility into their activity.
Call us dreamers, but our goal is to have every adopting family and licensed adoption professional in the Country using PairTree. We think that would give expectant moms the choice she deserves when making the most gigantic decision of her life. And it would also give adoption professionals the best opportunity to work together to serve expectant moms and adopting families. One day!
Does PairTree charge an additional fee if a successful connection is made?
+No way. Nope. Never.
In fact, we think that model is part of the problem in adoption.
We believe that removing those financial incentives is the only way to remove coercion. We believe that expectant moms and birth moms have the right to connect with as many families as they want to find exactly who they are looking for without any pressure to choose a specific family. Keep reading...
We don't have any hidden or extra fees and we work with licensed adoption professionals across the country to ensure adopting families and expecting moms are all connected to expert, licensed guidance.
Do I need to be home study approved to use PairTree Connect?
+Yes, and here's why. Some expectant moms are 39 weeks pregnant when looking at families. We want to give her piece of mind that everyone on PairTree has been approved to adopt. (We are HAPPY to recommend a home study provider near you.)
You'll also need to connect your account to a licensed adoption professional that does placement (an attorney or an agency – depending on what state you're in).
Have questions? Send us a note.