90% of adoptions are open.
That means the adopting family and birth family will be connected in some capacity forever. It also means the old and limiting way of "matching" doesn't work anymore.
In an open adoption, personality matters.
PairTree reveals the personalities of the adopting families – the leading indicator of how a family will behave – giving expectant and birth parents a values-based idea of what a future would be like.
The life of the party. Turning mundane into fun and enjoyable. Spontaneous, playful, and witty – with an emphasis on the here and now, bringing joy to the world through humor, fun, and irreverence.
Responsible and organized – they can create order from chaos. Absolutely comfortable with volunteering to take charge. 'Rulers' have a significant respect for hard work, authority, and patriotism.
Often described as artists, creators and inventors. Prizes being completely and entirely original. Has lots of ideas and a powerful imagination. Driven to build things that add value to the World.
Feels all the feels. Committed & faithful. Passionate about everything they do – with attentive, intense, and very personal connections. They create intimate moments and inspire love. Likes to please others.
Excellent at identifying potential in people and situations. Bends over backwards to make everyone feel special, and to make dreams come true. Commonly referred to as visionaries and innovators.
Swims against the current. Not afraid to think or act differently than societal norms. Questions status-quo. Often described as revolutionary, deriving power from the people. Free-minded and free-spirited.
These people seek authenticity find inspiration in travel, risk, discovery, and the thrill of new experiences. 'Explorers' seek a better world with an emphasis on the journey...
Information fuels them. Excellent at research, often serving as a thoughtful mentor or advisor. Values wisdom and continuous learning. Committed to gain deeper insight and constantly building on their expertise.
The friend you want. The 'neighbor’s' underlying value is that everyone matters. Seeks connections and belonging; is recognized as supportive, faithful and down-to-earth.
Oozes compassion, generosity, and a desire to help others. 'Caregivers' exhibit exponential concern and attention. Protects and cares for others – with unparalleled selflessness.
Motivators. Possesses courage, ambition, and competence – with strong moral character. These people triumph over tragedy, and major challenges – often inspiring us all to make the world a better place.
Values the simple things in life. Loves traditions. Makes time for everyone. Guided by goodness, nostalgia, and wholesomeness. 'Innocents' exhibit happiness, optimism, safety, and youth.
I never thought we’d connect on a site like this, but it happened in less than two weeks!
Max & Kelsey
The Benefits of PairTree Connect
PairTree doesn't prescribe a one-size-fits-all process or “match” families. Our platform empowers you to connect directly, supported by your licensed adoption professionals.
We'll ensure you have a licensed adoption professional to help guide you while you connect directly. Day one connections, while awkward, can be incredibly bonding.
It's your relationship with each other that will create a healthy open adoption.
Safety is so important to us
All interactions are subject to our Safe Connection Filters – where we constantly track three major markers, so you can focus on creating authentic connections.
You are immediately notified if a marker is flagged.
We provide analytics on how your profile is performing – along with helpful data on the activity of our Community.
Information is power.
A community in balance
For expecting and birth families, our platform provides the utmost choice and control. For adopting families, we provide the most opportunity to connect.
We never have more than 10 adopting families for every one expecting or birth family.
I knew what I wanted - and found exactly what I was looking for!
The Stories That Motivate Us
Seth & Barret: connected in two weeks!
"PairTree made the process of connecting with a birth mom transparent, and simple, in a way no other service or agency could. We’re forever grateful to PairTree for being the platform that connected us with Iris, the birth mom of our almost one-year-old son Estes and a part of our daily lives."
Connecting is becoming more social.
PairTree families don't need social media accounts to do outreach in social media.
Create an online profile
Think about what makes you different, and amplify that in your profile to make it easier for an expecting or birth family to get to know you.
We promote your profile
More eyeballs on your unique profile means more opportunities to make a strong healthy connection.
Watch your views rise!
Lean on your team of adoption professionals to help you navigate opportunities safely and ethically.
Frequently Asked Questions
We want to make sure you have all of the information. Let us know if you have other questions!Get Answers
Is Connect the same as Matching?+
PairTree does not “match” families. Instead our platform empowers you to make the connections with each other directly based on what's important to you.
As an adoption enablement platform, we've create a safe and modern space for adoptive families to commmunicate their intent to adopt and connect with expectant moms and birth moms exploring adoption.
We're not too keen on traditional “matching” programs because they have huge financial incentives that are misaligned to giving an expectant mom choice. Many of them charge adoptive families exorbitant fees (regardless of whether or not the match results in a placement).
And sadly, many work with unethical providers (people who illegally incentivize or coerce expectant moms to place a child for adoption) or with expectant moms who are also working with other agencies.
Does PairTree charge me an additional fee if we make a successful connection?+
No way. Nope. Never.
In fact, we think that model is part of the problem in adoption.
We believe that removing those financial incentives is the only way to remove coercion. We believe that expectant moms and birth moms have the right to connect directly with as many families as they want to find exactly who they are looking for without any pressure to choose a specific family. Keep reading...
We don't have any hidden or extra fees when you connect on PairTree and we work with licensed ethical adotion professionals across the Country to ensure their families have access to our ethical connection platform.
Do I need to have an approved home study to use PairTree Connect?+
It depends on your State's law. For example in Georgia, you do need an approved home study to have an online profile on Connect.
The good news? If you do your Home Study with one of the licensed home study providers we partner with, one of the perks is that an online profile on PairTree Connect is included!