The days of “matching” families are over.

90% of adoptions are open.

That means the adopting family and birth family will be connected in some capacity forever. It also means the old and limiting way of "matching" doesn't work anymore.

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In an open adoption, personality matters.

PairTree reveals the personalities of the adopting families – the leading indicator of how a family will behave – giving expectant and birth parents a values-based idea of what a future would be like.

"Jester" personality
"Ruler" personality
"Creative" personality
"Lover" personality
"Magician" personality
"Rebel" personality
"Explorer" personality
"Sage" personality
"Neighbor" personality
"Caregiver" personality
"Hero" personality
"Innocent" personality
I never thought we’d connect on a site like this, but it happened in less than two weeks!

Max & Kelsey

Adopting Family

The Benefits of PairTree Connect

PairTree doesn't prescribe a one-size-fits-all process or “match” families. Our platform empowers you to connect directly, supported by your licensed adoption professionals.

Connect directly

We'll ensure you have a licensed adoption professional to help guide you while you connect directly. Day one connections, while awkward, can be incredibly bonding.

It's your relationship with each other that will create a healthy open adoption.

Safety is so important to us

All interactions are subject to our Safe Connection Filters – where we constantly track three major markers, so you can focus on creating authentic connections.

You are immediately notified if a marker is flagged.

Clear performance

We provide analytics on how your profile is performing – along with helpful data on the activity of our Community.

Information is power.

A community in balance

For expecting and birth families, our platform provides the utmost choice and control. For adopting families, we provide the most opportunity to connect.

We never have more than 10 adopting families for every one expecting or birth family.

I knew what I wanted - and found exactly what I was looking for!


Birth Mom

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The Stories That Motivate Us

Seth & Barret: connected in two weeks!

"PairTree made the process of connecting with a birth mom transparent, and simple, in a way no other service or agency could. We’re forever grateful to PairTree for being the platform that connected us with Iris, the birth mom of our almost one-year-old son Estes and a part of our daily lives."

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Connecting is becoming more social.

PairTree families don't need social media accounts to do outreach in social media.

Step 1

Create an online profile

Think about what makes you different, and amplify that in your profile to make it easier for an expecting or birth family to get to know you.

Step 2

We promote your profile

More eyeballs on your unique profile means more opportunities to make a strong healthy connection.

Step 3

Watch your views rise!

Lean on your team of adoption professionals to help you navigate opportunities safely and ethically.

PairTree Connect

Frequently Asked Questions

We want to make sure you have all of the information. Let us know if you have other questions!

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Is Connect the same as Matching?


Does PairTree charge me an additional fee if we make a successful connection?


Do I need to have an approved home study to use PairTree Connect?