Jonathan & Carlos

In five years our relationship with our child’s birth mother will…

Honestly it will be what the birth mother is most comfortable with. We know there is a huge benefit to an adopted child to be able to ask questions and know where they came from, but we also know we want to respect the mother's wishes and have her be in the know as much as she's comfortable with.

-Jonathan

What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you look at the night sky?

Peace, beauty, and endless opportunities for discovery.

-Carlos

My best friend would describe me as...

A Nerdy, loving, overly nice, human.

-Jonathan

When we argue, what’s it about?

I'd say if we are arguing it's probably about some nerd fact we disagree on, and one of us is too stubborn to admit their nerd is stronger than the other. But on a serious note, if we were to fight, it is somethign we always come to with respect and compromise. we are all individuals and have different needs, and what is important is that we can meet each other where we have differences and find common ground to best support what the other person needs.

-Jonathan

When we argue, what’s it about?

Jon and I will have small disagreements like any other couple or relationship. Jon and I don't have big arguments; however if we do, it will usually be about something very important like milestone decisions or miscommunications that led to something we both didn't want.

-Carlos

What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you look at the night sky?

The first thing that comes to mind when I look at the night sky is WOW. Wow because there is so much to our world, lives, and everything that is encompassed around us. At the same time, the wow is also centered around that although this world is so big and there is so much I cannot see or control, I am still unique and one of a kind, and me in that moment is something no on else in this world will be. Our impact is far greater to that around us, even if we seem like the tiniest speck in this world.

-Jonathan

In five years our relationship with our child’s birth mother will…

Be as inclusive, kind, communicative, and open as much as is comfortable for the birth mother. My father never knew who his father was for the last 75 years. We recently discovered who his dad was and what he looked like. To see the look on my dad's face when that puzzle piece was finally found meant the world to me. I saw a piece of his identity come into focus and it was a joy to see. Our future child should know their birth mother, but only as much as they are willing, capable, and comfortable.

-Carlos

What scares you?

The inability to provide and support my family

-Carlos

My favorite place in the World is...

Hawaii because nothing can melt the stress of the world like laying in the shade by the beach with a pina colada.

-Carlos

My philosophy on parenting is...

Something I know will change, improve, and grow as I, myself, learn how to be the best parent I can be. I think about it a lot, but I know I want to approach parenting with a lot of mindfulness and love to catch myself when my patience starts to run thin and logic to help the child (and myself) understand things like consequences and even opportunities.

-Carlos

What is the best word to describe our family?

Warm - Jon and I are unabashed about our nerdiness, silliness, and playfullness. We both work very hard but at the end of the day it's what is under our noses that help keep us happy and loved.

-Carlos

Three years from now, I hope our child’s birth mom is…

Happy. I can only imagine that it is a monumental and emotional decision to place a child up for adoption. My hope is to that our child's birth mother finds healing and happiness. We want the birth mother to know that their child is in a loving home and that they only need to reach out.

-Carlos

Favorite season and why?

My favorite season is the beginning of Fall. I love a nice chilly day but with Sunshine still shining in the sky. The smells, the cozy weather, and excuse to sit next to a fire is everything.

-Jonathan

My neighborhood is a good place to raise a family because…

We live in such a nice, quiet, and safe neighborhood. In our neighborhood alone, we have at least 4 different park areas to play in, we have amazing schools around us, with a highschool right outside our back gate. There's so much beauty where we live, and easy to travel around and always come back to home base. Our backyard is ready for a little one to run around in, and our neighbors are wonderful as well.

-Jonathan

If you had to live on an RV or sailboat for the rest of your life, which would it be?

An RV would be great to roam around the United States and experience different places and adventures

-Carlos

Complete the sentence, “I can’t live without……”

Good food, good people, and my coffee :).

-Jonathan

Complete the sentence, “I can’t live without……”

Good food, good family, good friend, good conversations, and a loving home

-Carlos

We are the best choice because…

Jon and I have a lot of love to offer a child. We both feel strongly about adopting a child and providing them a home and family where they are given opportunities and a space full of love and support. Growing up as LGBTQ+, we've both had to navigate our own unique struggles in order to discover our potential. We've both discovered and agreed that every person brings to this world something unqiue that noone else can, and we both feel we have a lot of love to give a child so that they too can discover their own uniqueness.

-Carlos

If I could change one thing about the World, it would be...

Less hate and the need to divde people in to very specific little groups, and just more understanding and love.

-Jonathan

If I could choose one type of food to eat for the rest of my life, it would be:

Tacos. Easy...

-Carlos

The most special thing I own is...

One of the most special things I own, are a set of old Vinyl records that were recorded by my great uncle, who was a pretty successful Jazz musician in the 40's and 50's.

-Jonathan

I would never...

I would never want to become an overly disciplinary parent. Spanking will never be part of my parenting-tool box.

-Carlos

Dogs or cats?

I am absolutely a dog person. I've grown up with dogs my entire life, and we have the sweetest pup who can't wait to meet their mini human.

-Jonathan

We are the best choice because…

It's hard to say why someone is the best choice. There are many people out in the world that may be a great choice for a child. I'd say what qualifies us as one of the best choices for a perspective birth mother to entrust us with their child, is that we are not entering this decision lightly. My husband and I have spoken at length and knew that one day we would want to grow our family and we wanted to ensure, as we are now, in a stable environment. We both have great jobs with well known companies (which have been around for a long time and show stability), we own our own home, we have a support system of parents, friends, and family that are ready, willing, and able to help us as the development of a child, as it always takes a village not individuals. More than the basics of a place to live or a way to support this child, what we offer is true unconditional love. Having grown up in various states, countries, and cities, we've been able to really see different cultures, see how many different forms of love there are, ideologies, and gain perspective of the wide variety of people out in the world, which will definitely have an impact on how we raise this child. we want them to be curious, grow, learn constantly, love indescriminately, challenge the status quo and always know that the current way of doing things doesn't have to be how we continue to do them. I'm probably rambling at this point, but at the end of the day, we come from very loving families, and would truly embrace the opportunity to raise a child, watch them grow, love them, and always protect them. They would have two amazingly loving dads who will never let them ever feel alone or not enough. We will let the child be a part of the process when they are ready to meet their birth mother, if she is willing. Our passion is family, and we couldn't be more excited about the chance to grow our family with this little one that hopefully comes our way.

-Jonathan