Adoption is lopsided.
For too long, adoptions have been unintentionally lopsided.
Birth moms give the most, and get the least.
Adoptive parents (us, included) spend so much time trying to “get picked,” they haven’t thought about the depth and range of emotions that would manifest as a result of being picked – specifically the blend of awe and heartache for birth moms.
Birth moms endure 40 weeks of physical, hormonal, emotional and psychological changes – entertaining comments from friends, family and society-at-large about her rounding belly, when she’s due, whether she knows what “it” is – only to give birth and place that child in someone else’s arms.
To expect 3-6 therapy sessions to even scrape the surface of that trauma is borderline negligent. We can’t put an expiration date on a birth mom’s grief.
And that is why PairTree is pledging 5% of net profit to help provide lifetime support for birth moms. Both because it’s the right thing to do, and because we want to encourage more equitable and ethical practices in adoption across the board.
We are committed to doing our part to building a more equal future for everyone in the triad. For now, we are taking the time to listen, learn and support our Birth Mom Community.
We are currently evaluating organizations that provide lifetime support for birth moms. We will be sure to notify our Community when we’ve whittled the list down to solicit feedback.
How Can I Help?
There are a number of ways you can help:
- If you have a recommendation for an organization that provides lifetime support for birth moms, please email us email@example.com.
- If you’re an Expectant Mom or Birth Mom, please take this 2-minute survey to help us make the World a better place for you.
- Spread the word. The only way this changes is with greater awareness.