Stevie

& Chelsea

Home Study

Home study approvedApproved

Photograph of adoptive Family

Stevie

Innocent

Gender:

Male

Status:

Home study has been approved

State:

Washington

Religion:

Christianity

Education:

Master’s Degree

Profession:

Mental Health Counselor

Political Affiliation:

Not Political

Chelsea

Caregiver

Gender:

Female

Status:

Home study has been approved

State:

Washington

Religion:

Christianity

Education:

Some College

Profession:

House Manager / Nanny

Political Affiliation:

Not Political

We recognize the incredibly difficult decision to have to choose what is best for yourself and your child. And while we, and frankly no one, can tell you what is the best and the right choice, we want you to know that we are here for you and support you as you attempt to move forward with the exploration of what is best for you. We will never fully know the complexities of what you are going through, but we would like to support you and give your child the best life we can offer. Our dreams for your child is to give them the support, love, and acceptance that they deserve. We thank you for taking the time to read about our lives. It feels weird and slightly inappropriate to talk so much about ourselves. Our goal is to show a bit about ourselves both practically and personally. Hopefully this gives you a snapshot into our lives and the potential life your child could have. Ultimately, we want what is best for you, and recognize the difficulty of your situation and this choice. If chosen we want to provide a loving home that will sacrifice for them, give them safety and love, and allow them to grow into the person they are with acceptance and care.

Stevie & Chelsea

Favorite season and why?

Summer, we love to host BBQ's where our friends and their kids all come over. Stevie roasts ribs and burgers, and we all play yard games. At the end of the day we have a campfire and all sleep in tents in our backyard.

-Chelsea

What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you look at the night sky?

Childhood nights of sleeping on our trampoline. Chelsea and I both grew up in areas where we were given lots of freedom to explore friendships and the outdoors. For me, I remember spending summer days with our neighbors in the forest in our backyard, this icluded tree forts and lots of exploration. At nights we would all roast smores and me and my siblings would sleep on our trampoline.

-Stevie

My best friend would describe me as...

As spoken by Stevie, "Firstly, she is stunning by nature, but has an ability to see art and beauty in everything. From this perspective the choices she makes are often gracefully individual in a way that makes people notice. She has an ability to see the world on a deeper level, often asking questions, or tweaking the environment, or applying a small change to something to make it refined and noticed. Having a poised composure, she has the ability to observe and strive for perfection in herself and others, while also being able to lighten moods with a crafty and deep humor that allows others to identify and enjoy beautiful moments with her. With her empathetic nature, she often with one question will make you feel recognized and seen in a way that is completely unique. Ultimately, her gifts, talents, and desires are perfectly suited for being an amazing mother, but until that time comes, I have selfishly enjoyed every moment we have spent together."

-Chelsea

My philosophy on parenting is...

I want them to feel safe, loved, and accepted. I want them to know and experience the overwhelming and slightly smothering way parents say that their children are loved, so that they respond with a flat and slightly droning, “Yeah Dad, I know you love me.” But also, that when they really are struggling, they recognize their parents as the safest place for them to come knowing that whatever they come forward with will be met with care, validation, and empathy.

-Stevie

Complete the sentence, “I can’t live without……”

My dog Winnie! We love our daily walks at night, where we catch up on our day, and laugh as our dog insists on smelling every possible blade of grass.

-Chelsea

My best friend would describe me as...

As said by Chelsea, "I do not know a single person more loved, adored and respected as Stevie. His personality is peacefully electrifying, his demeanor is calmly captivating. He has an ability to see you fully for who you are, in all your beauty and also all your complexities and faults, and truly sincerely loves you with zero judgment. He cares for people with the whole of who he is, he will sit and listen intently for hours on end, it doesn’t matter if you have known him for twenty years or just met him five minutes ago. You will always walk away feeling more seen, more empowered, more challenged, more valued, and more loved after you are with Stevie. An extravagant gift he has is his desire to learn, and continue to better himself. Not only does he have multiple degrees under his belt, he also constantly has a book he is reading, and pours himself into learning new interests to continually better himself. His perseverance, motivation, grace-filled outlook, and tenacity is beyond me and just some of the reasons I love him. He is continually patient with me, is eager to include me in his passions (painting, baseball, language, history, cooking), and never for a second makes me feel like anything but the most loved person to him, he is extravagant in displaying his love. The second I met him I knew he was my great love of a lifetime, and would make the most caring, passionate, vibrant father someday."

-Stevie

If I could choose one type of food to eat for the rest of my life, it would be:

Sushi! Which has been a point of contention in our marriage, as Chelsea is allergic to shellfish...

-Stevie

Do you consider yourself religious or spiritual?

Yes, we found a lot of joy in our church community, specifically running the youth group. We spent 6 years leading a youth group which involved being a safe space as students navigate the complexities of middle school life. Our favorite times with them were the 3 day camps, where we would bring 150-200 kids to a youth camp and organize a theme, many games, and times for reflection where we attempted to embrace students as they define their own identity.

-Chelsea

In five years, our relationship with our birth mother will...

Up to the birth mom. We recognize the incredibly difficult decision in giving up a child and want to come alongside in partnership with the birth mother. We want to make sure their child is given the best opportunities to succeed in this life.

-Stevie

My philosophy on parenting is...

We value honesty, empathy, kindness to yourself and to others, integrity, and deep conversations that challenge our thinking and perceptions. We have found ourselves being incredibly proud of our ability to find ways to learn in all situations. Dreading complacency, we aren’t afraid to take risks for the sake of having memories, explorations, and deeper relationships. We value the unexplainable bond family has, and the beauty in choosing friendships and people that become as close as family.

-Chelsea

Complete the sentence, “I can’t live without……”

Friends and family, living in France for 4 years, we learned so much about the importance of community. The last year being back in the states has been reestablishing ourselves in our community again. For our children, we want to create a safe and open space that is established in deep community. The values we want to teach our children are love, vulnerability, and kindness,

-Stevie

What is the best word to describe our family?

Empathetic. We value acceptance and openness in not only our relationship but also we believe it's a basic human right. We want our children to embody this value as well through the experiences of seeing how powerful it is to feel heard and loved.

-Chelsea

We are the best choice because…

Best, is a really dichotic term. But we think we would be a good conderation because we value deep conversations that challenge our thinking and perceptions. We have found ourselves being incredibly proud of our ability to find ways to learn in all situations. Dreading complacency, we aren’t afraid to take risks for the sake of having memories, explorations, and deeper relationships. We want to cultivate a love for learning and hope that they will have a lifelong desire to continue to grow and learn.

-Stevie

Favorite season and why?

Fall! I love to holiday festivities and the changing colors. As it begins to get darker sooner, we love to go to baseball games in the night, enjoying the cooler temperature, eating dinner and enjoying the lights and excitement of a game.

-Stevie

My favorite place in the World is...

Etretat, France. It's this wonderful place between France and England, where the beach is rocks and is really steep so it makes this amazing sound as the waves crash. The cliffs are timeless, and the city is quaint and beautiful.

-Stevie

If I could have dinner with anyone—dead or alive—I would pick...

Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers). He modeled intense purpose and drive in the passion of teaching and guiding children. All the while, he consistently showed compassion, embraced emotions, and created a safe space to accept anyone wherever they are. A great quote that summarizes this, "As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has- or ever will have- something inside that is unique to all time. It's our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression."

-Stevie

My favorite place in the World is...

Villefrache-Sur-Mer

-Chelsea